This is so true and so helpful as you go through life. If we aren’t focused on being the center of attention, or if it isn’t our highest priority to be “right” all the time, then those times when other people feel the need to discourage us or criticize us, it really doesn’t matter. But getting there is the tricky part! The other part of this reality is that we need to be sure to balance our recognition of our insignificance in the big picture of life with the other truth that God has created us with dignity, beauty, and immense value . . . . to Him.
It seems that we can go either way on this mental “teeter-totter,” either seeing ourselves as way more important than anyone else in the world, or believing all of the negative and critical words that swirl around in our heads (usually placed there by others, intentionally or not). If we focus too much on our own importance, we can become prideful and arrogant. This even happens when we live as if everyone else is thinking about us all the time! Do you ever think that someone is mad at you if they haven’t spoken to you in a few days or longer? Or perhaps you wonder what you did wrong when you encounter a friend who seems distant and distracted. What about when someone you trust says something that hurts your feelings?
It could just be that they aren’t thinking about YOU at all! I have discovered that I am just not that important when it comes to all that is going on in the universe . . . . other people have so many things going on in their lives (mostly things that I have no clue about!) and their apparent distance or distraction really has nothing at all to do with me. You and I both have all kinds of things we are thinking about, projects we are working on, various struggles large and small, mental “to do” lists that seem to grow longer by the minute. We are just too busy trying to stay focused on the task at hand sometimes to realize that our short response or silence may be interpreted by someone else as rejection.
So how do we balance all of this and realize that 1.) we are VERY important to God and He has made us unique, treasured, and valuable because we have been created us in His image; 2.) we are not terribly important in the midst of other peoples’ concerns and busyness; and 3.) we are not important at all if we are focused on our “self-importance.” If we can find a balance in which we recognize who we are in Christ, and then realize that what other people think, do, or say are things that are WAY beyond our control, then perhaps we can relax a bit. We can trust in God’s sovereign plan for our individual lives, knowing and believing how very much He loves us, and we can rest in the knowledge that there is no reason to be offended or insulted by the words or actions of others. Because in the end, it is not about you and “them,” anyway.
Just remember what a treasure you are, and it simply won’t matter what other people say . . . . makes life so much simpler that way! Have a great day ;o)
Unfortunately, this week seemed to sneak up on me and I thought yesterday was Monday, so that would make today Tuesday, and that’s why I’m a day late in posting this for “In Other Words.” Hope you’ll join us next week . . . . on Tuesday! If you want to find a few of the bloggers who participated this week (on the right day!) please visit Urailak on her blog, Living for God and leave your link there if you want to share your blog post on this quote. See you next week!